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We're better together.
That's important to remember because when times are good and things are going your way, you probably don't think much about it. You're probably like, "Yeah, of course. We're better together. That makes sense."
But what I've seen over and over again with students AND adults is that when times aren't so good, and things aren't going our way, we close in on ourselves and shut people out.
But you weren't created to handle everything by yourself.
Like I said in an earlier post, God created you to connect.
If you close in on yourself and shut people out, then not only do you experience loneliness, but you're also missing out on what God wants to do in your life.
The book of Ecclesiastes is attributed to King Solomon:
"These are the words of the Teacher, King David's son, who ruled in Jerusalem" (Ecclesiastes 1:1).
It's thought that he wrote this book of wisdom near the end of his life as he thought back on all he'd seen and learned, so that makes his reflections in this book almost 3,000 years old. I don't know about you, but in a world where everything aims to be newer, shinier, and faster, there's something about reading old, time-tested wisdom that feels strangely refreshing.
I want to look at a few verses from the book of Ecclesiastes that relate to relationships.
"Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed" (4:9).
He states the idea first, and then he's going to illustrate it in a second. Here's the idea:
We're better together than we are on our own.
It's like when your teacher assigns you a big project, and you're like, "Oh man, that's gonna be so hard! There's so much to do!"
It's better with a partner because you can help each other. That's the idea he's trying to get across here: We're better together than we are on our own.
Then he illustrates the idea with an example:
"If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble" (4:10).
If you've ever been white water rafting, you know it's awesome. But sometimes someone falls out of the boat! And when that happens, they need help getting back in. If you fall by yourself, you're in real trouble. But if you have someone with you, they can reach out and help you.
Maybe you're facing new challenges and changes right now. It can feel like your life was just floating along like a lazy river and then, next thing you know, you're in the middle of some white water rapids and it feels like you're about to be tossed out of the boat.
You need people around you that can reach out and help you.
Don't try to handle everything by yourself.
The truth is that we're better together than we are on our own.
When things don't go your way, and it feels like you can't catch a break, don't close in on yourself and shut people out. That's when you need to invite people in and say, "Hey, I could use some help."
Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, "A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
So the question for you is: Who's got your back?
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