Let's say you have a decision to make and the answer isn't obvious.
We're presupposing that the issue isn't directly commended or prohibited by Scripture. It's one of those where one person says you should, another person says you shouldn't, and you say, "I don't know what to do!"
The question I would start with is the one that Andy Stanley says is the best question ever:
"What is the wise thing to do?" (The Best Question Ever, 33, italics his).
That's a great question for any of us to ask about anything we're considering. But if you think about it, the wise thing for one person might not be wise for another person. So we should personalize the question from three different angles:
In light of my past experience, what is the wise thing to do?
In light of my current circumstances, what is the wise thing to do?
In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do?
I like this question because it shifts the focus from "can I?" to "should I?" There are plenty of things that aren't necessarily wrong to do, but that doesn't mean that you should do those things. You can, but should you? It's like Chris Rock says, "You can drive a car with your feet if you want to, but that doesn't make it a good idea!" That's why the question isn't, "What am I allowed to do?" The question asks, "What is the wise thing to do?"
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