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We all want respect. That's a good thing, but it's also usually the cause of the friction in our family relationships. We want respect (which is good), and when we feel like we aren't being respected then we have a tendency to react in ways that aren't good.
In all of our family relationships, there is a stimulus and a response. You can't control the stimulus. You can't control your parents. You can't control your brother or sister. But you can control your response. You can control yourself.
The problem isn't that you want respect and stand up for yourself. The problem is how you stand up for yourself. Rather than responding in anger and retaliation, if it's respect that you want (and it is) then you must respond with gentleness and respect.
Gentleness, because you will get a lot further with your family members if you sit down and discuss the things that make you feel disrespected than if you just mouth-off at them every time you don't get your way.
Respect, because disrespect will never get you respect.
If you want to be trusted, then be trustworthy.
If you want to be respected, then be respectful.
We didn't choose our families, but each of us can choose how we will respond to them.
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